Today I failed a set at the gym. For those who might be confused, when you do a training program for lifting each day has an amount of weight and a number of reps and sets you need to complete. If you are unable to complete one of the lifts in a set, or unable to complete the number of reps in a set you are considered to have failed the set.
It sucked. Failure doesn’t feel good. But just because you fail something doesn’t make you a failure.
In fact, let’s talk a little bit about failure.
Does that word make your cringe? Nobody likes failure.In fact our society teaches us failure is something we should avoid. In our effort to avoid failure we often don’t even bother to try. Fear of failure stops us before we even get to the action stage of change.
But the truth is, failure is the only way you learn. Failure is a good thing, a great thing even. But it certainly doesn’t feel that way in the moment.
Failure, in reality, is a gift. It makes you reevaluate. Today’s failure means I look back on my day - did I eat enough? Did I get enough rest? And if that doesn’t seem to be the problem; I look at the bigger picture - do I need to do more or different assistance work? Do I need to improve my diet or recovery?
In order to overcome failure we have to get honest with ourselves. What went wrong? What went right? What can you do differently next time? And then the most important part - try again.
It’s easy to say, I know, but when you’re licking the wounds of your failure it can feel impossible. The trying again is where the rubber really meets the road. You may fail again, even if you think you learned from the failure before. But, remember, you failed before and it didn’t kill you.
It may feel easier to just walk away, but if what you’re working toward is a healthier, happier life, can you really live with the alternative? A new year is a time for us to reflect on what we want for our lives and begin working toward it. So if you miss a workout, or let the stress of the day get to you when promised yourself it wouldn’t this year, just remember - no road worth traveling is smooth.
If a healthier, happier life is in your 2017 plans, I would be happy to help you on your journey. Message me for an initial consultation and we can get you started on the right path.
Taryn is a Los Angeles based Registered Dietitian who's passionate about helping you be your healthiest you.